Labor & Delivery, Part III

We've all seen movies where the woman is laboring in the hospital bed, looking pathetic or screaming in pain.  When I was brought to the L&D room, I was pleased to find it exactly as I remembered from the walk-through our birth education class had done:  a well-designed bed with all sorts of configurable, Transformer-like parts to facilitate labor and delivery, a rocking chair, a comfy couch, a private bathroom with a Jacuzzi bathtub, and other little touches here and there that really made it seem more like a hotel with easily cleaned floors.  The lights were kept appreciably dimmed, particularly given that by now it was after 11pm.

My contractions (which almost completely ignored the standard durations and frequencies they lie about in prenatal education) relented slightly so that I felt brave enough to try a little food and drink.  I knew I had a ways to go to get to 10cm dilated before my beast of burden would be experiencing the New World, and I wanted to be sure I was sufficiently hydrated and calorically stable.  I downed a bottle of water and some small snack foods.

Now, they say that women don't remember the pain of labor or that they forget the experience afterward.  I felt that I had a very clear memory of the flow of events, though my ability to estimate duration was admittedly impaired due to more pressing matters occupying my everything.  When I initially set to writing down the story of my labor and delivery a matter of weeks after the fact, I had somehow forgotten entirely (until reminded) about this next development as my segue into the Jacuzzi bathtub.

For the first time in nearly 5 months, I vomited.  It was not expected.  It was not pretty.  It was ALL OVER my Hospital Gown of Impossible Modesty and the Transformer bed's sheets.  Well, I didn't like the gown anyway, and I wasn't keen on laboring in the bed either, so off came the hospital gown and, naked as the day I was born, I climbed into the tub to rinse off and continued to labor there a while.

By this point, I no longer cared who saw me naked, so long as they weren't taking pictures.  I was ginormously pregnant and in pain and trying to maintain focus on the task at hand.  Sabrina, the Fabulous Doula, had brought a small kit of battery-operated tea light candles, and we turned the lights down low in the bathroom.  She and my husband Andrew traded turns providing counter pressure on (i.e. pushing a fist hard against) my lower back while I writhed about in the water.  Sabrina occasionally had to escape to relieve her stomach of its contents (morning sickness knows no time/place boundaries), and Andrew often had to trade out because his knees dislike him and kneeling on the tile floor by the tub was not helping them to like him more.

They also tried as best as possible to obey my commands and to take them seriously--despite that I was undoubtedly difficult to interpret.  Sabrina was able to discern my gestures (mostly a lot of grunting, vague hand motions, and attempts to speak through gritted teeth) with considerably better accuracy than Andrew, who is most definitely not a multi-tasker, despite how appreciably calm he seemed to remain throughout the process.  Besides being made to kneel beside the tub and essentially maintain a fist pressed against my low back, my labor assistants were also tasked with two other annoying efforts.

One, the Jacuzzi tub had problems.  The tub had 2 jets on either side, which were both weak and irrationally placed, but still they were better on than off.  An unfortunate side effect of the jets was a perplexing inability for the tub to retain water.  Many various measures were attempted to keep as much as possible from draining; however, despite all valiant efforts, frequent refills were still required, which were made all the more obviously necessary by the horrendous cacophony of the jet intake when the level dropped too low.  This helped me, in a way, as a distractionary technique, despite being a somewhat aggravating development.  

The other major task I imposed on Sabrina and Andrew was to continually restart a musical pullstring teddy bear.  The entire time I was laboring at the hospital, this bear needed to be played for me to listen to the soothing sounds of Rock a Bye Baby.

Occasionally, I was forced to leave the tub and get checked for my "progress" on the bed.  Still I managed to get most of my monitoring done in the tub.  For those not in the know, during labor the hospital staff put these elastic bands around your belly with measuring instruments attached to them.  One is for measuring the baby's heart rate, and the other is for (mysteriously) tracking the mother's contractions.  During this eternal and hazy period of labor, I was grateful for the lack of a clock in sight.  All I could do to track time was to tolerate the occasional 15 minute bouts during which the staff insisted I don the elastic bands--and with only moderate petitioning, they let me use the waterproof ones (boxed region) so I could stay in the tub!

So, looking like some horrible science experiment, I writhed naked in the bubbling, cacophonous tub while wireless electronics were strapped to my insanely swollen midsection and teeth-grindingly painful contractions wracked my body.  Good times.  I once hinted at the idea that I might need painkillers after all, but Andrew quickly reminded me that I did not want them and sternly indicated that I should not ask again.  I didn't.  And I thank him for it, though I know if I were more insistent, he would have relented.

At 7cm I had still been lucid but my communication skills were rapidly diminishing again.  By 9 cm I could scarcely say "bear" to indicate that my focus needed restarting.  My nurse had a shift change, and a new crew came on.  These women flowed into my room and took up positions all around me.  Shana (remember my midwife?) had been hanging by the sidelines most of the time, often whispering inaudibly with the nursing staff (which I later learned was to show amazement at how I was laboring).  Now she informed me that I could no longer leave the bed.

Lying naked in a roomful of strangers would ordinarily be unnerving, but I had some scant coverings on my lower half, and anyway, I reasoned, these people see this sort of thing all the time.  I made up my mind that I did not care:  there were more important things imminent.

The time to start pushing had nearly arrived.